The Heart of the Matter

For a kid my age, emotions are a big deal, and sometimes we may think that a situation calls for a tornado of emotions, but we have to learn to control them.

For example, I have held a lot of hurt in the past such as kids hurting my feelings, and it really doesn’t feel good. Some ways that have helped me, though, is being around people I am happiest with. I also joined clubs, and I signed up to volunteer at my church. I work with the two-year-olds, and they’re not always smiling , but they’re a blast to hang out with!

They, along with my friends and family, have brought me to where I am today: a smiley face that usually gets a smile back. Sure I still hurt a little on the inside, but I choose to channel that hurting energy into being a figure that may inspire young girls and boys in the future!

Anyways, the main lesson here is regardless of what you’re going through or putting up with, we should always manage our emotions to the best of our ability.




As adults and as parents, we have to be able to help our kids and the young people in our lives validate their emotions.  The caveat is we also have to acknowledge our own.  This may unlock a treasure trove of feelings, responses and unresolved internal conflict.  Let’s face it, our emotions are a heavy load to carry, weighing us down and preventing us to truly be in the moment and react appropriately in every single situation.

Like me, you are probably juggling work, family, sports, finances, worry, anxiety and relationships every moment of the day.  We don’t often feel like we can slow down and manage the ticking time bomb waiting to explode at exactly the wrong time to the least expecting person.

I am here to tell you today…you are not perfect!  But you are loved, you are forgiven and you are capable of turning those moments around.

There are days all of that juggling leaves us feeling empty at the end of the day.  Empty is a breeding ground for anger and resentment.  When you don’t have anything filling you up with hope and love, you can’t possibly give it out to anyone else.  Empty is hard, Empty is lonely, but Empty is not what Jesus died for.  He died to give us life, to show us more love than we could ever receive over a lifetime.

God spoke to me several years ago about using writing to share my story and to go to that place of emotion, brokenness so it could be used for healing.  My emotions told me, “I don’t want to go there.  I don’t have time for that!”  Meanwhile, the stress of life still left me feeling like something was missing.

This year I prayed for God to break me, to open my heart to live poured out.  Poured out probably sounds like “empty”, however there is a subtle yet significant difference.  POURED OUT means there is something there to give.  My prayer for you today is that you fill yourself with a hope that has no limit and a love without boundaries and you find ways to allow the abundance to spill out and overflow into others.

 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.   Luke 6:45 (NIV)