Assumption is defined as a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. In the context of relationships, this is a challenging word. We all do it, we know the consequences, but some times we just can’t help ourselves. We like to believe we know exactly what is going to happen next. We will even convince ourselves there are no other alternatives. We make them quickly and often without consideration for the slightest possibility that we might be mistaken.
We would love to tie an absolute to it and say when we operate on living without proof or validity to what we think, feel and believe, we are bound to live in a darkness of disappointment and confusion. On the other hand, assumption allows us to have faith in things we haven’t seen in person. We love to believe the best about the people in our lives, that they always have our best interests in mind. Typically, we can feel good about making these assumptions because of the strong connections we have and the trust we have established.
We get into a bit of trouble when we make assumptions based on our own feelings or interpretations and forget to evaluate them against those truths. While there may be deeply rooted emotions tied to your assumption or a history of repeated offenses, if you are only relying on your own perception, there might be more truth lurking in the shadows than you are willing to acknowledge or accept.
The good news is no matter how far down the path of despair you may travel, forgiveness follows close behind. At any moment you can turn away from a path of destruction and place your burdens on the shoulders of forgiveness.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV